EP 109

You vs. You

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Inside This Episode

In this episode of The Above Board Podcast, John delves into the internal struggles encountered on the path to personal growth and the pitfalls of comparing oneself to others. Drawing from personal experiences, including the challenges faced when founding CandorPath, John discusses the transient nature of negative motivation and emphasizes the importance of setting personal benchmarks. The conversation explores insights from ‘The Gap and The Gain’ by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, advocating for a focus on personal gains rather than gaps.

Three Biggest Insights

  • Embracing Internal Growth
  • Transition From External to Internal Motivation
  • Gap vs. Gain Thinking

Key Takeaways

  • Avoid External Comparison: Comparing personal progress to others can lead to a loss of motivation and burnout. External factors like negative comments or competitiveness may provide temporary energy but aren’t sustainable for long-term growth. Instead, focusing on personal milestones and progress is more beneficial.
  • Shift from Gap to Gain Thinking: Adopting a mindset of “gain thinking” over “gap thinking” helps in measuring progress positively. Gap thinking fixates on the disparity between the current state and desired goals, while gain thinking celebrates achievements and acknowledges growth. This mindset shift serves as a healthier benchmark for success.
  • Embrace the Journey of Self-Discovery: John encourages listeners to view personal growth as a journey of self-discovery and emphasizes the significance of self-motivation, discipline, and happiness. It advocates for setting boundaries, prioritizing gratitude, and recognizing individual progress rather than succumbing to external pressures or societal expectations.